First off, welcome to the forum! Secondly, it sounds like you may want to read up on the FAQ page about some of the basics: http://www.lockpicking101.com/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=1744
I think if you read up a bit you will find the answer to you questions as it sounds as though your technique needs to be addressed. We would need to ask you about 100 questions to give you answers that a little study could all but take care of. If after your search in the FAQ section you still have un answered questions feel free to re-visit. Good luck!
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