First piece of advice: stop looking at the lock.
Second piece: don't lift each pin stack as high as it
can go, lift each pin stack as high as it
needs to go. Pins are tiny little things and you're exploiting a tiny little gap between them so it's easy to miss that gap if you push the stack up with too much enthusiasm. I know it sounds kind of silly/obvious but it took me a while to figure that out and it may help you as well.
For the next part, I have to ask a question: can you feel the pin stacks individually? Or put another way, if you were presented with a completely unknown lock could you figure out the number of pins using only your tools and know which stack you were manipulating? I ask because being able to tell each pin stack apart is the only way to know which one you've overlifted. See, normally the key pin will only do one of three things: move with no resistance (driver pin is set), move with slight resistance (driver pin is not set, spring is pushing the stack down) or move with slightly more resistance (driver pin is not set, spring is pushing the stack down, stack is binding and lifting it enough will set the driver pin). In all three cases the key pin will more or less move freely. When you find a key pin that doesn't want to come down anymore you've found the one you overlifted and will have to release just a little bit of your tension to let it drop.
As for the click, what I meant was that you're only going to hear one click regardless of whether just the driver pin is coming down or the whole stack is.
And lastly, the best resource that describes that feeling of the driver pin setting is... experience. Sorry, I wish I had a better answer but it really just comes down to practice; when you pick a lock the only feedback you get is through your tools and it just takes a while to learn to interpret it. Some people pick it up in a few days, some (like me) struggle for months until it just works all of a sudden. For me, when the driver pin sets it feels like the tension tool twitches ever so slightly and the key pin loses all resistance; the chamber turns just a little and there's no longer an opposing force from the spring.
Hopefully this helps.
"We all sit around in a circle and suppose, while the secret sits in the center and knows." --Robert Frost