Funny, I just had a conversation on MSN with one of our newer users last night where I commented on this exact point. I mentioned that I believe that there are a lot of lockpickers who can successfully open many locks but never really learned to "feel" what's happening, and be fully aware of where they are at, or why it's working.

Good timing.
I do believe that it's worth you taking some time to really develop these skills, as it will take you much farther in the long run. Kinda like learning to play music by ear vs. learning music theory.
My advice, start back at the beginning. Strip out all the pins but two and start there. This will feel ridiculously tedious I'm sure, but don't move forward until you are ABSOLUTELY SURE that you can tell which pin is the binding pin. Pay very careful attention to what you are feeling, and don't even think of adding the next pin stack until you really feel that you have learned all you can from the exercise.
Then add a 3rd pin stack and repeat. It will take some time, and you'll probably get bored and have to set it aside for a while, but I promise that at the end of the exercise, if you are diligent, you will be a better picker for it.
Hope this helps! Happy picking!
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